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11/19/04
This area will be up to you guys.
Your stories and memories you can submit through the
KelliCloverForum link or
send to
jeffclover2003@yahoo.com.
***Attention please***
If you can, I would rather you use
the KelliCloverForum
to leave your memories and stories of Kelli.
Click here to
link to that. I love getting all your e-mails and memories, and, by all
means, keep them coming, especially if you are just e-mailing to chat,
but it is a lot of work for me to keep up with this. You don't have to
join to leave memories and notes to Kelli on her forum, but you could
become a member and you will be on my list. It's helpful to keep track.
Thank you all! Jeff (Daddy)
hey gurl wats up not much my way just sittin at home
bein bored as usual. me, amanda, brad, jamie, aj, joe,
josh, ryan, nick, emily, jackie, angela, shane, and some
other people just got done plannin wat were gonna do on
saturday night. cody moved away. hes goin to st.louis or
florida. please watch over him so he dont do nothin
stupid. please kelli, dont let him be dumb! i know you
guys were friends and you wouldnt wat anything to happen
to him either. everyone around here misses him and hes
only been gone a couple days. but we all miss you more
cuz we have no chance of seein you again but, cody we
could possibly see him again. you dont know how bad i
cried when i found out you were gone. well, if you were
watchin all of us than you know. kelli, i got this poem
about you but, its at school in my locker. ill try to
put it up tomorrow! i cant promise though. well kelli i
gotta go for now. remember i miss you a lot.
love always,
kelsey aka tinkerbell
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October
22nd, 2004
KELLI,
HEY, I JUST WANTED TO SAY HAPPY
14TH BIRTHDAY! WE LOVE YOU
AND MISS
YOU. LOVE ALWAYS CASEY
JONES.
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October
19th, 2004
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Harding to
hold memorial
service
Kelli Clover
would have been
an eighth-grader
this fall at the
school.
By
CHRISTINA SMITH
REGISTER
STAFF WRITER
October 19, 2004
On Friday,
Harding Middle
School staff,
teachers and
students will
dedicate a
memorial in
honor of former
student Kelli
Clover, who died
from injuries
earlier this
summer in an
accident on the
east side.
Friday would
have been
Kelli's 14th
birthday.
Jennifer
Stalder, a
Success case
manager at
Harding, said
the memorial was
planned to
celebrate
Kelli's life.
Kelli would have
been an
eighth-grader
this fall at the
school.
"Kelli was a
very positive
student here at
Harding. She is
definitely
missed," Stalder
said. "We are
doing this just
to show that as
a whole school,
we honor her,
her memory and
her whole
family."
The service
will begin at 1
p.m. at the
school, 203 E.
Euclid Ave.
During the
ceremony, two
custom-painted
remembrance
benches and two
statues will be
placed in the
school's
courtyard, which
is filled with
wildflowers and
a small pond.
One of the
statues depicts
an angel.
Harding
Principal Donna
Christensen will
speak and the
school's
orchestra, of
which Kelli was
a member, will
play a few of
her favorite
selections.
Jeff Clover,
Kelli's father,
said he wanted
to thank the
school for
honoring his
daughter and
supporting his
family.
"From the
beginning
Harding's been
behind us and
very supportive
of the whole
family. It's
been a tough
thing to go
through," said
Clover, who
lives in
Urbandale.
Clover said he
didn't think
Kelli could have
imagined how
much her
classmates and
teachers would
miss her.
"She would have
been shocked at
the amount of
support and
friends she had.
I don't think in
her mind she
thought she was
popular," Clover
said. "(The
memorial) is a
great thing.
It's something
that will be
there for a long
time."
Stalder said
that only the
eighth-grade
students and
their parents
have formally
been invited to
attend because
of lack of space
in the school's
auditorium. She
added that if
there is space,
sixth- and
seventh-grade
students and
their parents
will able to
participate.
Stalder said all
students are
encouraged to be
in school that
day.
Stalder said the
ceremony is
being held
Friday because
of the
importance of
the date for
Kelli's family
and classmates.
"We know that
is going to be a
very hard day
for the kids, so
we thought we
could roll it
all together and
try to make it
happy as a
celebration of
her life,"
Stalder said.
Stalder said
Kelli will be
remembered as a
very active and
popular student.
She was a tutor,
participated in
a variety of
school
activities and
was enrolled in
the school's
talented and
gifted program. |
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September
30th, 2004
kelli aka
bubbles,
hey kelli. I
miss you so
much. I never
got to tell you
how much you
ment to me. you
really were like
a sister. you
always told me I
was such a dork
yet you called
yourself a dork
sumtimes. you
always would
stand up for me
and I'm so happy
you did. we try
to stand up for
you noow since
your not here to
do it yourself.
I feel so much
pain and sorrow
cuz you left us
so early. but I
still member all
the good times.
like how you
would talk in
that high voice
of yours and I'd
just laugh. I
miss that voice.
like I miss your
smile, the
twinkle in your
eye, and just
you. skool isn't
the same without
you there to
make it fun.
there are so
many people you
left behind. I
feel sad every
time I see
Chance cuz I
know you were so
proud when he
could say your
name and know I
realize when
he's older he
probably won't
member you. he
won't be able to
member you as
his smart,
pretty, nice,
popular older
sister like us.
but I'm sure
he'll be proud
of you after
your mom and dad
tell him all
about you. he'll
be proud just
like you were
proud of him.
it's so hard to
wake up now and
realize your
gone and at any
moment someone
else you love
could be taken
from you. it's
hard to know
that if it could
happen to
you(especially
you) it could
happen to any of
us. but we're
doing the best
we can. I luv
you like a
sister and
always will.I
hope to see you
again. and when
I do I first get
there I expect
you to give me a
big hug, and
show me your
kelli smile. I
luv you lots and
luv you always.
until I see u
again......
kirsten
aka monkeyface
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September
26th, 2004
KELLI~
MY NAME IS EMILY OGDEN. I AM
FRIENDS WITH KIRSTIN S. SHE HAS
TOLD ME A LOT
ABOUT U AND U SEEM REALLY NICE.
I THINK THAT U WOULD BE A REALLY
GOOD FRIEND
AND KIRSTIN TOLD ME THAT THREE
MONTHS NEFORE THE SCCIDENT U
ACCEPTED (SORRY,
I DON’T KNOW IF THAT’S HOW U
SPELL IT) CHRIST. THAT’S IS
REALLY GREAT. THE
FIRST TIME I WENT TO THIS SITE
WAS ABOUT A WEEK AGO. I STARTED
TO CRY. I
COULD TELL THAT THEY R
HURTING. I LOVE U AND I WILL
MISS.
~EMILY OGDEN
September
21st, 2004
Kelli,
Hey
I just wanted to say even though
we did not talk much, I still
love you like a sister and
always will. You were a good
friend and I know i'll see you
again someday. I love you and
I miss you. Love always
Casey Jones
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September 12th, 2004
To Kelli:
I loved you soo much kelz, and i apologize for
not keeping as well in contact as i should have.
i never told you in person that i loved you, but
being my cousin, and best friend, how could i
not? you are the most wonderful human being i
ever watched come into my life, and still were
when i watched you get torn out. i want to try
and finish our tree house, if i can. but its not
going to be the same, with you not there. in
fact, i can barely even go camping anymore,
knowing that we were once there together, but
never can be again. It never even seemed like
there was a 2 year difference between us. you
always were so cool about everything. you really
were my very best friend, and i want to thank
you, for letting me be yours. it was the best
experience of my life. but i guess this is it. I
love you kelli, and i will think of you
everyday, for the rest of my life, until i get
the privilege to meet up with you again in the
future. Goodbye Sweety.
Love always and forever,
Emily
August 24th, 2004
Hey Jeff this my first time
doing this so I hope I do this right!!
I remember in Mr.Kelly's class Kelli, Nicole,
and I had so much fun in that class. We would
all pass notes to each other. Nicole was always
the first one to write, then when she was done
she would pass it to Kelli. Then Kelli would
write something and pass it to me. After that I
would write something and TRY to pass it back to
Kelli, but almost everytime I did Mr.Kelly would
catch me. After that Nicole, Kelli, and I would
all start cracking up. Those were the fun times!
Also some of the times we got caught Mr.Kelly
would say "So I guess you guys want me to read
this letter to the whole class", and we would
all be like go ahead all it says is hey, wazz
up, and nuttin jus chillin.
Well that's all for know!!!
From
Brittney Lashley
September 7th, 2004
~*Kelli*~
I know that in 5th grade we
didnt really talk much...but the
times we did talk we had our ups
and our downs...i watch the DVD
that ur parents put togeather
for ypu everynight and i
cry...and cry and cry..u just
dont know how much u leaving us
has hurt every1..
I remember the last thing i said
to u on the last day of school
of 7th grade..i said "Kelli hope
u come back next year i'll miss
ya"...i am glad i said that..i
think Kristen has the last best
words to you then ANY1 (besides
family) she told us when i was
at ur house that she said she
loced u and she ment it and u
told her the same!....
Kelli this Sunday
(9*12*04) me and amber are
goin to be goin to church with
ur sister and ur mom...we are
goin to be talkin to u there..we
talk to u everyday anywaz but u
know what i mean...i just wish
that i stayed at ur house when i
had the chance,,,,that is why i
HATE gettin sick...i was havin
fun the time i was there...someimes
i think y then?..why did i have
to get sick the night i was goin
to be stayin at ur house?...
me and amber went up to "the
site" 1 friday night cuz we
didnt want u to be alone on a
friday night..and we sang and
talked to u and everything wit u
while we was up there...eveytime
i go past i say "hi and "bye"..
i know that this letter isnt as
sad as Kristens but it is the
best i could do......kelli u
just dont know how wonderful ur
parents are...ur mom is a nic
person to talk to and i havet
really got to talk to ur dad yet
but i hope i do soon!!...thank u
kelli for letting me be ur
friend....i love u kelli..we
love u kelli!!..watch oav us day
and night baby girl!!!
missing u for eva til i get to
see u again kelli!!!!! :' (
LOVE,
Michelle
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September 5th, 2004
kelli,
hey babe i wa swritin to tell
you that every time i see a pic.
of you i remember the times we
had, i remember the times we
have spent together and the time
we had spent apart. the time we
have spent apart is what is
tearing me up inside, it is
eating away at me and i cant
stop thinking about the last
time we acctualy had a
conversation and spent more than
time to say "hi" and "bye" to
each other.The last time we
acctually had a convo. was in
the 7th grade and it was tward
the begining of it, i was
talking about sompthing and some
how nick came up, i had said he
was cute and you was like "do
you liek my boy freind?" i was
like i think hes cute but i dont
like him and we started arguing
and the last words that i said
to you were "i dont want to og
with your boy friend newayz" and
then every time in the hall you
would still say hi and if we
were leaving school you would
say bye. after that argument i
never thought you would talk to
me again, but you did and i want
to thank you for giving me the
oppertunity to be your friend
and spend time with you.
i would also like to tell you
that you have great parents that
care so much about you and would
do anything for you still even
though your no longer with us!
your mom ha to be one of the
greatest people i have ever meat
and one of the nicest and most
welcoming to. i havent really
(by really i mean EVER) had the
chance to talk withyour dad but
by all the t-shirts and all the
other stuff he his doing for you
(and us) it just shows how great
of a parent he is!!
welll i guess i should wrap this
up. well before i do i just
wanna say one more thing you had
to have been the bestest(lol i
cant say it right) friend i have
ever had for the time we were
friends. and i would like to
tell you before go that i love
you with allllllllll my heart
and soul and i always will and i
will
nnnnnnneeeeeeeeevvvvvvvveeeeeeeeerrrrrrr
forget you you will be in my
heart if not in my mind
love you soooooooo much
Amber Ridgeway
P.S. sorry i didnt go to the
last 2 days of 5th grade i know
you were looking forward to
doing say my name by destinys
child with me and sadz so
sorrrrrrry
love you
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August 30th, 2004
I didn't know Kelli all that well but what I
did know I hope to cherish through out life. I
would see her time and time again. At functions
such as my nephew Chance's birthday. To me
Kelli was a sweet, shy, and innocent girl. She
was very family oriented. Some kids when they
grow up...they choose to separate themselves
from their parents. Kelli always had a smile
though when she was around her dad. I could
tell they had a way of communicating to one
another as only a father and daughter should.
She was not a rebellion child of any means from
what I seen. She had a way of smiling and
lighting up the room. Though she was quiet and
shy around me...I could always feel comfort in
knowing that someone was always smiling at
life. When the world gets hectic at times and
your put in situations not so comfortable...a
smile across the room can always enlighten
things. That is what I will always remember
about Kelli. She always seemed happy. I'm
saddened by her loss. We both had something in
common. Chance....her step brother and my
nephew. From seeing pictures and hearing
stories from her father I know she too loved him
deeply. I am saddened though cause I honestly
believe Kelli would a been a special role model
for Chance. Someone he could of went to when
the world became to bumpy of a road to travel.
I hope that there is one thing Chance is able to
get from his older sister....the ability to look
at life....no matter how confessing or saddened
it can be....and smile.
Uncle DJ
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August 24th, 2004
Daddy,
Please let everyone know that my brother and i
pray for Kelli, and her whole family and friends every
night. I just miss her so much and sometimes i don't
know what to do like i just can't stop thinking that
this ever really happened. I would to anything just to
hug her again. as the days go by i grow to miss and love
her at the same time.
Love,
Crystal
August 22nd, 2004
Hey Kelli and family
Kelli this is your bro cody and I
wont you to know Nick is doing well and he really misses you. He
dont talk much about it but I know he thinks about it, but its
hard for him to talk about. He will sometimes say a little
something but you can tell its hard for him. Iam still working
every day just to make it in this world, but one day I will meet
you up in heaven, maybe you met my mom if so tell her I miss her
and I cant wate to see her, because I will be so happy. Well mom
and dad are hanging in there they really miss you but I be there
for them, Kim is hanging in there to she really misses you to,
she wanted to see her little sis grow up.
Every body says it's going to be
weard not seeing you around at school. Iam going to stick around
to make sure every body that iam close to graduates and moves on
before I leave to Florda. I wish you could of been around long
enough to graduate and see how fun high school is. Well I will
make sure Nick makes it through. Well I will never get over or
accept that you are gone but I will have to but you will always
be in my heart I love ya girl and miss you.
love ya your bro Cody Bergeron
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Hey Kelli,
I
know we weren’t the best of friends & we didn’t spend that muck time together,
but when my mom told me the news I went 2 my room & cried. I didn’t want 2
believe it. It scared me so much I have never had some one die that I knew
except my grandfather, but it was when I was 7.& so I didn’t really understand .
With you though it was unreal. I don’t even believe that it was your time. Only
if I could have seen you one more time just 2 see your pretty face again. You
were so beautiful & still are. I would do anything 2 have you back here with us,
but I guess your in a better place& we all will see you some day.
I
remember playing Halo on your dad’s X – box & playing volleyball when you came
with your dad on Sundays, even just when we sat on the couch 2 talk & when we
all(you, Kim, Jeff, me, Nathan, my brother Chance &, my dad)saw fireworks
together.
I
love you & miss you always. I know how everyone else feels because I feel the
same & I will & I’m sure everyone else will feel like something stabbed you in
the heart & it will stay there 4 eva!!!
Luv
always,
Cayla Korte
J 8/12/04
August 15th, 2004
DEAREST KELLI;
WE HAVEN'T BEEN ABLE TO BE WITH YOU MUCH
THROUGH. YOUR 13 YRS. HERE
ON EARTH, BUT WE KNOW THEY WERE HAPPY ONES..
MOM , DAD & KIM TOOK GREAT CARE OF YOU, THATS
EVIDENT FROM ALLTHE LETTERS
& PICTURES FROM YOUR FRIENDS UP ON YOUR DAD'S &
UNCLE GREG'S WEB PAGES.
WE COULDN'T GET THE TRAGEDY & GREAT
SORROW OUT OF MINDS & NEVER WILL, ALTHO WE KNOW
IT WILL LESSEN,WITH TIME; BUT OUR MEMORIES OF YOU
WILL BE THERE FOREVER.
ONE OF OUR FAVORITE TIMES SPENT WITH YOU &
FAMILIES, PARENTS, GRANDPARENTS,AUNTS
UNCLES & ALL THE CHILDREN WERE TIMES WE GATHERED
AROUND THE CAMP FIRE SITE AT SPRING BROOK
PARK, ALL OF A SUDDEN EVERY ONE STARTED SMELLING
SOMETHING BAD & IT TURNED OUT, IT WAS MY
CREPE SOLED SHOES THAT WAS MELTING. I HADN'T EVEN
REALIZED IT; BUT YOU AND EVERY ONE ELSE
REALLY LAUGHED.
WHAT FUN WE HAD, GOOD TIMES ARE NEVER
FORGOTTEN & MAKE HAPPY MEMORIES FOREVER.
LAST FALL, WHEN WE WERE DOWN, YOU TOOK US TO
SEE YOUR NEW BEDROOM THAT GRANDPA
WAS BUILDING FOR YOU, YOU ALREADY HAD SOME OF
YOUR STUFFED ANIMALS THERE ON YOUR BED,,
& GRANDPA WAS SO PROUD.
LATER, AFTER THE FUNERAL,WE WENT TO YOUR NEW
BEDROOM, & THERE WERE A LOT OF CLASSMATES
& I WOULD SAY, HUNDREDS OF STUFFED ANIMALS ON
YOUR BED & EVERYWHERE ELSE.. IT BROUGHT TEARS TO
ALL OF US.
BELIEVE US KELLI, WE ALL LOVE YOU SO VERY
MUCH, THEN & NOW.
GRANDMA & I KNOW, WE WILL SEE
YOU AGAIN IN HEAVEN ... TILL THEN
LOVE -- LOVE --
LOVE
YOUR GREAT
GRAND PARENTS
ROY & MARCY BARLAGE
OF JEFFERSON IA.
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Notes from Kelli’s friends at the site:
Kelli—You’re in my heart! I love you! BF4L! I miss
you LOTS and LOTS. With love, Kaylee and Danielle Higgins
Dear Kelli,
I know that I’m a little late to tell you this but I
wanted to dedicate this year to you. I wanted to become closer friends with
you. Before that fight we were so close. We were like sisters, and I wanted to
be that close if not closer. But now we will never get that chance. And I want
you to know every time I see a monkey I will think of you and every time I walk
past Walgreens I will cry and when I go to school I will remember your funny
personality. Kelli I will just miss you so much. You’ve always been one of my
best friends and I hope that you will rest in peace my dear friend. I will
always love you.
Love lots, love always, Mercedes Moon
Kelli Clover,
We’ll miss you Kelli. We’ll love you so much. I’ll
miss you so much. You are like a part of my heart. Now part of my heart is
broke. Miss ya!!
Love Katie Deaton
I love you Kelli, I hope you know how much
I really cared for you How I loved you so This is just a
bad way to finally let you know
The worst possible way to let you know
I know you’re up there watchin’ everybody cry It just
shows how much you will be missed How much we didn’t want you to die.
I remember certain times we would talk and laugh
together But I know you’re going 2 wait up there For everyone to be there
forever
You’re in the center of every heart Reason of
everybody’s tears The talk of every conversation It’ll be that way for years,
You were just a kid A kid that everybody loved. U were
my true friend. A friend that I wish I could have hugged.
You’re going to be missed. Never 2 be forgot You’ll
always be loved . Loved a very lot.
I dunno how we’re all going to get thru this. I miss
you and I love you.
Much love always – Amy McNaul
Kelli,
As you float to heaven and the angels give you a pair of
wings, a golden harp, and halo, everyone on Earth will miss you, but we all know
that you are in a place where you will be loved as much as you were when you
were with all of us. R.I.P. Kelli. We all love you!
Your friend always, Samantha Hearn (I will miss you
very much!)
Hey Kelli,
Even though I didn’t know you as well as Nicole and
everyone, I grew to love you. You were beautiful and talented. The ideal
life. I wanted to tell you that though you may be gone, you memory lives in my
heart. I’ll pray for your family for they have lost you, an angel to all. So,
I’ll wrap this up. You were a great person and I grew to love you. May you
rest in peace always and forever. I’ll miss you dearly but you’re in heaven
with God watching over us!
We will always miss you. I am soooo sorry for your
parents, Kelli. May you always be in all of our hearts.
Rest in peace, Kelli Clover! 10/22/90-07/25/04 We will
love you and always will!
Christa (an 8th grade orchestra friend)
p.s. you’re welcome for the cherry coke—hehe (inside
joke)
Hey there Girly,
Kelli, remember this picture? It was right after we
found you (aka Nemo).. we had so much fun that day..we went out to highland park
and made fun of the boys in their baseball pants...it was also the day you told
me that you loved Nick more than you ever thought you could love someone besides
your family…gosh Kelli I miss you and so does everyone else. Next school year
will be a change for everyone…there will be no Kelli in the hallway or
nothing…remember Maris’s party where we first met…we burnt all that pizza and
then we went bowling and we were laughing and having fun..Kelli we all miss you
and want you to come back but I guess God wants you back and I know why…you were
an angel on earth and now you are an angel in the sky…we love you and miss you!
Love ya, Shannon Whisler
Kelli,
I don’t really know what to say. I miss you. I can’t
believe your gone. This isn’t fair. You are way too young to be gone. I close
my eyes and see your 10 yr old face. Your bright and shining face. You were
always happy. I love you so much. You’re my little sister. You and Kim are a
huge part of my life. Your dad, too. I don’t understand why this happened and
I probably never will. But I need you to know how much I love and miss you.
You have always been with me and you always will. They keep saying that god has
a plan and your gone for a reason. That you have a greater purpose now. I
think its crap. I think your greatest purpose was to live a long life and die
old. You were taken too early.
All I can think about is how I was too busy to come see
you these past few weekends. I even came to see you last weekend but you
weren’t there. So I told myself to make sure I came next weekend for sure. I am
and was truly honored to have you and Kim stand up for me at my wedding . As
well as honored to have know you and been a part of your beautiful life.
I think of our trip to St Louis. Of going x-mas
shopping with you and Kim and letting you two pick out your own gifts. I
remember how annoying you could be. I would give anything to get that back. To
have you back. Trista really took to you as everyone you knew did. She will
grow up to know everything there is to know about her aunt Kelli.
I love you more than you’ll ever know. Your mom, dad and Kim are so lost
without you. As am I. I keep waiting to wake up and for this to have been a
dream. I can’t let you go. You will always be remembered. Even though they
never married, you are still my sister.
I will love you until the end of eternity little sister.
Jennifer
August 11th, 2004
Bubbles,
hey babe.. I've gotta tell you something you might
like to hear. When I was little my mom's mom died
(my grandma) and my mom was a wreak, but I couldn't
cry because I wasn't close with my grandma I was 5
years old so I didn't really know her so I couln't
cry. Then a year or two later my dad's mom died and
I couldn't cry for her either because I wasn't close
with her either. But.....when I got to the caskit I
looked at her then my dad and smiled and said "ok
daddy when is she going to get up now?" and he said
"I'm sorry Kristen but....shes not going to" and I
said "what do you mean shes gone forever and not
coming back" and he sadly said "yes" Kelli my point
is when I was little I couldn't feel for deaths I
just couln't cry because no one close to me has
died. When I heard about you I couldn't believe it.
Your were closer to me then anyone. I heard from
Joey's dad and he ran in Joey's room and said "your
friend Kelli Clover just died shes dead" and I said
"haha no stop lying" then I went up to "the spot"
were it happened and I asked if you were ok, Jake
Lloyd looked at me shook his head sadly and said no.
Kelli remember the time I first met you. You let me
borrow your colored pencils in encore because I
forgot, well we met but we didn't really talk, until
gym. You and I were running and we stopped and you
were hot so you lifted up your shirt jsut a little
past your bellybutton and I saw it pierced. I was so
jelous because I wanted mine done. Then in our 6th
grade summer you and Sam stayed the night, it was a
couple of days after you and Sara bought all of
those belly button rings from the net and I asked to
but one from you so I did. And we were up most of
the night tryign to pierce my belly button then I
did. You said keep it there for five minutes so it
will go through. Well us all being blondes FINALLY
realized that the needle was real thin compared to
the thick ring. Then the next day you told me to
talk my mom into getting it done professionally and
it worked and I got it done.
Kelli everytime I had a problem...you knew about
it. Before I todl you what was wrong...you knew,
that was our bond. We ALWAYS talked about our
problems and we didn't say anything to anyone else
about any of them. When I first saw you I knew you I
would become an US. You taught me to be me and let
out the real me and I did. Kelli I love you SOOOO
much because you were always there for me when I
needed help. Now a days when I have a problem I keep
it it and dont' say a word to anyone because I'm
afraid that once I get advise to one person I'll
keep running back to them just like I did you and I
don't want to do that because I'll feel like I
replaced you and I don't want that. Now all the
problems I have are building up but I'm staying
strong and thats ok because sometimes I have to
handle it myself.
Kelli I want to say thank you for everything you
ever did for me. I want to say that you taught me
how to feel because when you died I cried harder and
harder every sob. I still can't believe your gone
though because it seems like another day. And most
of the summer You, Nick, Joey, Sam, and Kayla came
in my room around 2:00 P.M and wake me up, and now
when I get up its like "when are they coming today?"
and I forget. You've made a big impact on so many
people's lives its a number no one knows. If you
were here I would tell you that I can never repay
you for what you have done for me. I can't help but
love you and miss you more every day. me and
everyone else can't believe it. Do you remember
when we always use to play around and hit eachother,
well for just play girl you hit hard and gave me a
bruise once lol it was soo funny but when you died
you gave me and a lot of other people a very big
bruise and the thing is about this one is that its
permanent because it hurts more and more everyday.
Do you remember the time when I was in lunch and I
started crying (like usual) well you were clear
across the room and crystal was two tables away and
you were there so fast before her you don't believe
how much that touched me.
When I wake up I get a little happy because
everyday that passes it means I'm one day closer to
seeing you again. Kelli I love you soooo much and I
wish you were here.
Love Always Kristen A.K.A. Peaches
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August 11th, 2004
hey Jeff,
I hope kelli knew that I loved her and I want to say that I love you to
Jeff . Cause if you were important to kelli your important to me too. I
can say you are like a real dad to me . and no matter what I will write
to you and keep in touch with you. yea I know kelli has bonded us all
together so she knows that we all care. this was my first funeral that I
ever had and it just had to
be kelli. out of all the people I didn’t think it would be her. one of
my friends called me up that day and told me what happen and I didn’t
believe a word they said. then when I wacth the news and saw the truth,
my whole family started to cry. I didn’t know what to do after that
happen, I just laid in my bed and pictured her in my mind. I love you
and kelli, and every one who cares.
love Ariana
August 11th, 2004
Dear Kelli and family,
Every morning I wake up with this heavy feeling and it takes a second to
remember why it is there—then I remember what has happened and
immediately my thoughts race to Sheila, Jeff, Kim, all Kelli’s friends
and family and wonder how they are facing another day without her.
Sometimes my heart aches so bad I don’t know what to do with all the
feelings. Sometimes I am angry, I find myself wondering why this had to
happen, why to Kelli when she was doing something all kids do—just
riding her bike. Then the anger fades to sadness again and the day goes
on like this back and forth-thinking about everyone who loved her and
how they are managing with the ever changing emotions that come with
grief.
I have spent time looking back at scrapbooks I kept when me and your dad
dated and I keep thinking of these cute memories—Kelli you will remember
these. One time I had to run some errands and so we all went to some
store (me, you, your dad and Kim)—you wanted those fake nails that you
glue on and begged your dad. Of course your dad relented and got the
nails and the glue. We went back to my house that night and I proceeded
to play manicurist—we laughed so hard. We glued our fingers together,
glued you to the table, and they kept falling off. We worked on them
forever with more glue on me and the table than on the nails—finally
they stuck.
We painted them and you were so proud—I don’t think they even lasted 24
hours but you thought they were great. You were so funny and easy to
please—another time we were at your dad’s friend Joe’s house to take
pics of you and Kim. I did your makeup for both of you—while Kim was
getting her pictures taken you picked up this belly dancing top—more
like a bra with sequence and beads hanging off of it. You put it on and
danced around, your dad whispered to me “God, I hope she doesn’t become
a stripper one day.” He was teasing and we both just laughed at you
but I think you laughed at yourself more—that is one thing I loved about
you, you never took yourself too seriously. When it was your turn in
front of the camera you really strutted your stuff—no holds barred, you
posed like a supermodel and loved every minute of it.
I also remember this really cute memory…it was after me and your dad had
just been dating a couple months. It was his and Kim’s birthday and I
got a cake, handed them each their wrapped gifts and then handed you a
wrapped gift—your eyes lit up like a little girl—I had been at Bath and
Body works getting Kim stuff and I knew how it stunk to be the one
without a gift so I bought you some lip gloss, lotion, candy…you ripped
into that bag and acted as if I had bought you a super expensive gift.
You must have put the lotion on 10 times and I think you used half the
tube of lip gloss in the next 24 hours. Something so small could make
you happy and feel important. I can still even see you sitting on
my living room floor putting your goods on and sucking on the candy I
bought you. You always had candy around somewhere, usually half eaten
and wet—these are all things I will share with your brother Chance. They
make me feel better just writing them down—like now they can’t be
forgotten.
Me and Chance miss you Kelli and love you, and we ache for everyone else
who loves Kelli also. Jeff you are doing an amazing job with the website
and all the other activities you are involved in on Kelli’s behalf. I am
so glad you have found the support of an extended family and that you
have given us all a place to remember and share our thoughts about your
beautiful baby girl!
Love Chance’s mom, lisa
August 11th, 2004
Kelli even thought i just met u at the begining of seventh grade i miss
you a lot.we had lots of fun times together.I wish i would have had the
chance to get to know u better .You were beautiful,smart,and always fun
to be around.You made times fun..There were times you called me up and
said wil u go up to findley with me to hang out even wen everyone else
was not up there.When me and ashley would go up to findley everytime u
were up there.and we would stay up there and hang out with u.Now times i
would pass fimdley i would wonder if u were up there.cuz i still cant
believe the fact that ur gone.I remember a time i was up at findley with
a bunch of people and my chain fell of on one side of the school and i
was standing there trying to fix and then u came donw the street with
nick and deven and u stoped and you fix it for me u even titened it for
me.thanks kelli..It hearts even more knowing u got hit where i got hit
last summer.but wat hearts the most is that ur gone.i miss u lots and
will never forget u and the times we had together.
luv you always and forever Suzie LAraye
Brown
August 11th, 2004
Dad,
I'm more then happy to tell you my memories, kind words, and my emails.
I can talk about her all day just saying the greatest things. I can't
wait for the get togethers. I love jsut talkign about the memories and
laughing about the funny times everyone had with her I would do anything
to bring her back but Jeff she really was the sweetest girl and that
made her an angel I loved her she was my bestfriend she told me things
she wouldn't anyone else and same with me. She was the best kid-theripist
(lol) the first time I asked her for advise it worked so from then on
out I always went to her for help. I trusted her sooo much because she
was with nick for the longest time so I knew she wasn't like that. Jeff
if you ever need anything at all I'm here and I'll be there in a
heartbeat (at least I'll try to beat the traffic LOL) alright I'll see
ya soon.
Luv Ya DaD
luv always Kristen
August 10th, 2004
Dear Kelli, i miss it every
time how when i past by Findley and looked up there to see who i saw up
there and there was every one and the only time i would go up there is
if you here there! Now no one goes up there it is so boring without you
here! Do you remember that one time when it was Sam, you and me when we
were taking Sam home and we all fell off the bike, because we all got on
it? It was me in the front, you where in the middle and Sam was in the
back and something happened and the bike wiggled and we all went flying
in the air and we couldn't get up because we where laughing so hard and
then that lady came out to ask as if we where ok?!?! Yea we had some fun
times and I'm going to miss you a lot but i guess God wanted another
angel and he picked you because you just had that extra bit of
specialness about you that Heaven couldn't' do without! You will be
remembered by not only the positive influence that you were on peoples
life's but by the way that every time people think about you they see
outer beauty along with an inner beauty that is untouchable! You always
had a smile on your face that reflected everything good about you! I
can't picture you without seeing that smile or hearing that little
giggle that everyone knows so well! It is so hard now to walk past that
park and not to see you there! It is so weird now to see Nick because
every time I used to see him I would see you not to far behind! Now when
I see him I keep expecting you to run out and say hey but you never do!
It is so hard to realize that you are gone! I can't accept it but I know
that I have to! You have forever left an imprint of you in my heart! You
have taught me so many things without even realizing it and I can't
possibly ever forget you! I know that if I was in a bad mood and walked
to that park you couldn't stand to see me not smiling! You never could
stand to see anyone not happy! You would always try to make everyone
smile and you always did! I learned one really good thing from you Kelli,
you NEVER allowed anyone to push you around or pick on you! No one ever
got the best of you! I learned that life is what you make of it and it
can be cut short at any time! Don't allow people to push you around--you
taught me that!!! Kelli, you always were the sunshine in EVERYONES life
and although now it seems that the sun won't shine your memory will make
it be sunny again! God picks the best angels from on Earth to come back!
While you were here you shared a little bit of Heaven with everyone! I
realize how hard it is for us here on Earth to live without you and God
couldn't live without you any more!! I will forever remember the good
times that we had and I KNOW that I am not the only one who will NEVER
forget you! Thank you for being a good friend I always had fun with you
and LOVED having you around! I miss you!
Love you gurl 4 ever and
alwayzz,
Ashley Bishop
August 10th, 2004
hey jeff,
I am sorry that it had to be kelli to
pass away, i have known kelli fo 6 years and she was
one of my best friends. i love kelli so much and i
am sad that i didnt get to tell her that. she made
me happy every time i was sad and listen to me we i
had my problems. i will never forget the first day i
saw her, i knew we were going to be friends for a
long time. she was pretty,smart,and funny and i cant
stop thinking about her. every minute of the day i
just go back when we laughed and had the funiest
time together. the one thing i want her to know is
that i love her and that i am sorry if i ever hurt
her in anyway.if i had one wish i would wish that
kelli was back with us and be happy and live her
fullest life.
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I love you so much that words can't explain how I
feel about you. I have this one memory thats the best in
my life. Its when we were at Coffee's apartment waiting
for Sam and Kayla to get there and I started crying
because I didn't think I was good enough to be your
friend because to me you had it all.....good
realationship, very pretty, tan (lol), and skinny. Well
you took me to the bathroom and u said "Kristen....your
one of my bestfriends, I love you, and I don't know what
I would do without you in my life" Kelli as soon as you
said that you made me soo happy. Then after you made me
all cheered up you started crying. I remember everyday
of your life you told me how much you loved Nick and you
started crying because you thought it was the
end......and Coffee and I both told you that it was
going to be ok and it was. Kelli I wish you were here
right now so I can you how much I really need you.
Everyday I wake up and think about what to do but it
feels like there is nothing to do because when you were
here I did everything with you everyday and now nothing
seems to be fun without you. Kelli I love you miss you
and wish you were here!!
Love Always
Kristen Blanchard
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I just wanted to say that your daughter and I were
very close. Me, her, Sam, Kayla, and Brittany hung out
almost everyday. We always met at my house then called
Nick and Joey to come over to go to Findley or sometimes
Joey's, or Sam, Kayla and her would go get Nick and Joey
and then all them came to my house and get Brittany and
I. Well that wasn't just a "every now and then" thing
this was almost everyday. Or sometimes Brittany and I
just met them all up at Findley. Well nothing seems fun
anymore just like I wrote to Kelli. When I wake up its
feels liek another day I always think, "So...what time
are they coming over today?" but I always forget that
shes gone. I can't accept the fact that shes gone
because she was my bestfriend and its not easy and not
an everyday thing that your bestfriend dies. I always
saw you as a father to me. I love ya dad hang in there
because I'm trying just as hard as everyone else.
Love Always
Kristen
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August 6,
2004
thanks for being there for me Kelli is my
best friend and always will be I never really thought about how close we
were and how hard it would be without her she is a great person and now
i wish I could talk to her again just so I could tell her how much our
friendship ment to me now I know how much I miss just holding the phone
and saying a few things every now again means now I sit at home alone no
one to share things with and no one to talk about anything and
everything about with i feel really alone with out a bestfriend but
thanx to you and everyone else I know im gonna get though it.
Thnk you and love u lots,
Sam
July 28, 2004
Thoughts of Kelli from her Grandpa:
Kelli, I'll
always remember you with a smile, a joke to make me laugh. The hugs, the
kisses, the tears when you were hurting.
There is something special about a
Grandparent's love. It is unconditional. We don't have to deal with the
everyday stuff. Our only job is to love you and I loved you more than
life itself.
There has been a part of me ripped
from my heart that can never be the same again. But I know you are with
God and that someday I will see you again.
Kelli, I miss you and love you and will never
forget you. Your place in my heart will always be there.
Love You,
Grandpa Barlage
July 27, 2004

Oh, my sweet, sweet baby girl,
You remember this day, don't you? Last Christmas.
You had this HUGE present and you had no clue as to what was in it. You
were so excited. Now, as you remember, my camera couldn't take a
picture worth a crap. Remember hun? You press the button, then maybe 3
or 4 seconds later the thing takes the pic. But, for once in it's life
it captured you at the moment when you realized what was in that
box. You were so happy. It melted my heart. I love you so much
baby girl. More than mere words could ever express. My wound is so deep.
I will miss you forever. I will love you for always. I can't, right now,
fathom getting over the pain. Not just my pain. The entire families. All
her friends. The world is a different place for us now. We have lost a
truly beautiful gift from God. I just wish he had waited to take you
back. I'll pray for all of you.
Love always,
Daddy
July 26, 2004
Dear Sister Kelli in Heaven,
My mom is helping me to write this since I am not big enough. First I
want to tell you that I love you and always will. My mom says that you
are now my guardian angel, I wish you would have stayed here rather than
going to heaven. We had so much fun playing together and I wanted us to
grow up to be best friends. Everyone is crying because you are gone and
it makes me sad and confused.
My mommy wants you to know that she is going to make sure I know all
about you. She already bought me a special box that I will keep
everything in to remember you by and when I get older we will look in
this box often to remind me of my sister and guardian angel. My mom
already told me she remembers when she first started dating our daddy
and you would draw pictures saying “Jeff loves Lisa” with hearts and
stuff and she would put them on the fridge. Mommy said you always
giggled and talked really fast. She said you were in cheerleading camp
and she watched you play softball before. She also said she watched you
change from a giggling little girl to a beautiful young woman who had so
much ahead of her. Your pictures remind us of your outer beauty and the
memories we have will continue to remind us of your inner beauty.
Mommy says that God must have needed you in heaven more. I wish that
wasn’t true. I hope you can see me and will watch me grow up to be a big
boy. You can guide me when I need guidance, and whisper the right things
to do in my ear because I will be listening for you. Mommy also bought
me a little cross for my room that will remain by a picture of you to
always remind me of my big sister. We all love you and miss you already.
I will take care of daddy for you, he is hurting so much and it makes me
so sad.
Love your little brother,
Chance
August 6, 2004
Hey Jeff,
It's Sara Nichols
Samantha and Nick's sister. This is something I wrote when I got home
the night of the accident. Sorry if it is a little graphic.
July 25, 2004
It's true what they say
death always comes in 3's. When lucas died in April this yearfrom a self
inflicted gunshot wound (suicide) to the head, I never thought I would
have to go through th pain of losing another person that close to me for
a long time. Two months later, June, Brandon my best friends little
brother commits suicide also. That was even harder to deal with. I had
to keep Jackie strong. Luke was her boyfriend they started dating the
night before he died. Her and Luke had grew up together, he had just
turned 18. Then Brandon her little brother, who was as cute as a button
he would have been so datable for me but that was my bestfriends brother
and I wouldn't go there. I loved him so much he was 16. I had to be
strong for Jackie because she felt that she didn't need to live anymore.
After Brandon died I
thought to myself who's next, never in a million years did I think it
would be Kelli. My little sisters bestfriend and my little brothers
girlfriend on December 13, 2004 it would have been two years. It hurts
so bad to see her laying there in the street dead, hearing my sister and
I sob uncontrolably in front of the huge crowd that had gathered to see
what was going on. The thing that hurts the most is how I found out. A
man looking for his kid at Finley, unable to find him leaves for a
second then comes back and says if you want to see something cool
there's a 15 year old girl laying in the street dead in front of
Walgrens. I took off running lost my shoes but didn't stop I reached the
second closest stop sign to Euclid when I saw my brother in the back of
the police car. I ran up and asked to Nick was it Kelli he said yes.
Then I grabed him through the window and huged him the cop took off
driving I feel in the middle of the street. Finaly I got up and finished
my way up there they hadn't touched her she was still laying there. Then
I spotted Nick's mom and Mike standing in the blocked off area I ran
straight through to them. Tonight has been the hardest night of my life.
I would do anything to take her place so she could be here for Nick,
Sam, and her family, but I know that will never be able to happen.
I regret all the
negative things I had said about her just last night, but than the night
before that is one of my last memories of her. We were all going to the
movies Kelli, Jeff, Sam, and I, Nick was unable to go becuase he was out
of town at a wedding. I remember her getting into the car and asking Sam
if the skirt she had on was her's Sam said no. She was so parinoid that
Kim would find out that she was wearing it and get mad at her. I can
still hear her laughing all the way there, because she made a comment on
Jerry being a granpa and he said he better not be and she was the only
one who could make it that way. Than a blank face went over her the same
fce that she always has when something goes straight over her head and
she doesn't get it. It took her a while then we explained, than she got
her oh duh now I get it face. She was only 13 she looked as if she was
18 she was so pretty. I never use to like her, but than in the last few
months she started hanging out at Finley than I grew to love her she
would make me jealous of her looks and I knew Jeff wanted her too just
like everyother guy who met her or knew her.
Here's more stuff i
have been thinking of.
She had just started
haning out at Finley a month or two before school had got out. Nick
started getting into skateboarding because of Jeff so he started haning
out up there and than not too long after that Kelli started coming up
and started getting interested in skateboarding too. Jeff was there
teacher, Nick got Kelli a board that his counsalor gave him. The morning
of the accident my mom took my sister to get a board so they all could
learn together. Kelli was so proud of her scraps and bruises weither it
was from falling off the skateboard going down the stairs, trying to
drop into halfpipes, or just plan falling off, but no matter what
happened she would never give up.
It's been hard without
her and it's not going to get any easier. Just think if she was here and
saw all of us crying she would be trying her hardest to make every last
one of us smile and laugh she loved to make people happy, and she did a
very good job of it too. her mother still calls and when I see that name
on the caller id I go Kelli called forgeting that she's gone. Isee my
sister talking on the phone at 1 o'clock in the morning and i go who you
talking to Kelli? Than I correct myself I still can't bring to terms
that she is gone. I don't want to accept the fact that I will never yell
at her and Sam to keep it down because the parents are a sleep again. I
don't want to believe she's gone.
Love Always & Forever,
Sara Nichols
R.I.P
Kelli
Ann Clover
Oct.
22,1990-July 25, 2004
You're all of our guardian angels
We love you and miss you
see you in heaven.
August 6, 2004
Kelli,
I love you, you were my best friend you
shared everything with me and I shared everything with you. I wish that
I could she you again even if I couldn't speak to you just to hold you
again would mean the world to me. But I know I all I can do now is hold
you in my heart, in my mind, and in all the memories. I loved how me and
you used to always get in fight and hang up the phone. And some reason
one of us would always call back a few hours later and just be like hey
as if nothing even happened we'd be over anything just like that. I wish
you could do the same now, have you call me and we could act like this
whole thing never even happened. I want you to know that a little good
has come out of this you have brought everyone soo much closer together
your family and friends are great and they really love you. I'm glad to
know your in a better place now. Thank you for teaching me so much.
All my Love,
Sam
August 6,
2004
I want to say I am very sorry for you loss. I am sure you have heard
that so very many times in the last few weeks. I am only 22 so I am not
sure what its like to loose you daughter, and I hope I never have to go
through that with my own, but I did loose my uncle in a hunting
accident about 2 years ago, he was like a father to me and that is a feeling I
never want to feel again. I understand the pain you are going through,
and I know it got to hurt real bad right now, but it will get better I
know it will. Always remember God will only give you what you can
handle. He will never give you to much to deal with he knows how strong
you are and knows what you can handle in life. When my uncle died I
found a poem it says....
"Going through grief is like going through a tunnel.
The bad news is that the tunnel is dark.
The good news is, once you've entered that tunnel,
you're already on your way out."
I printed that out and I put it on my computer I look at it every day
and read it and I remember my uncle and how wonderful he was and how
much he taught me, helped me and how much fun we had. It might now mean
to much now, but someday you will feel better, but the pain will never
go away, and you know that. My uncle was taken so fast from us 2 years
ago and still I have only been to the grave 2 times, it hurts way to
much, so know that you are not alone when it comes to the pain. Now on
the other hand, my fiancé brother dies 5 years ago from an illness, and
when he first passed my fiancé spent nights at the grave cause he did
not want to let him go. So it don't matter if you don't want to go and
deal with it, or you can not take your self away from there, no matter
what there is always someone who understands. Remember even if you are
not a Christian you can always turn to God and he will listen to what
you have to say, you night not turn to him for a long time. I didn't I
was so angry that he took my uncle to soon from us..cause he still had
a family and we needed him, he had a son that was 10 and needed him to
look up to while he grew up, a wife that loved him more that anything,
a step son that needed his guidance, a sister that needed his support,
a niece that looked up to him and always wanted his approval and a
brother that needed his helping hand, why did he have to leave so soon? I
could not under stand that, then I realized that my uncle brought us
this far in life and wanted to see what he taught us while he was here.
I still sometimes get angry at God cause I still don't understand why,
a lot of times I lay in bed crying saying why why why???? I don't want
to say that the pain will go away because you and I both know it pain
will NEVER go away, but sometimes it helps to know that others grieve
with you. I remember the amount of people that came to my aunts house
when my uncle died and they brought food and toilet paper and paper
towels...and it was wonderful to know that so many were touch by him, and
I am sure you feel the same way about Kelli. These words might now
mean to much coming from a 22 year old, but I want you to know that I
think about your family daily, and wonder how you guys are doing.
Please if you even need help with anything, or someone to talk to please
email me I am always read to listen to someone. I wish you the best and
know that I am praying for you! Also one more question...we saw on the
news last night that the Des Moines Semi Pro Baseball league is also
helping you...do you ump for them, or someone you know play for them? My
fiancé plays for them and just wondered how there was a connection.
Best Wishes and God Bless you
Erica Philips
&
Richie Bennett
July 26, 2004
Dear Jeff,
No words can
adequately describe the loss you have just experienced. You
can find comfort in the fact that she was not just your
daughter, but it was always evident she also saw you as her
friend.
I watched her grow
from a coloring, giggling little girl into a beautiful young
woman. And I love her not just because she was your daughter
or Chance's sister. She was unique and always part of our
extended family.
I promise to raise
Chance to always remember his sister. We will always be
family because of Chance. I wish I was the one beside you to
hold you up, but I am always here as a shoulder to
lean on because I know this journey will be long.
We will always
love you, Kelli and Kim. You brought the most special thing
in my life and I am a better person as a result. I will
always love you for Chance. You have the prayers of all
my family and friends.
Love,
Lisa and your son Chance
July 29, 2004
This is what I read at her funeral:
Dearest Kelli, my sweet little monkey. Nothing can truly or accurately describe the hurt that we are
all feeling right now. You've touched all of our lives in a most positive way. You brought joy to
everyone around you. You made us laugh like only you could do. You were tough as nails, but
had a heart of pure gold. I loved your spunk, your attitude. Perhaps because I know partly where
you got it from. Proud father does not even come close to my feelings for you. I looked forward
to seeing where you were going to go with your life, because I seen you going very far. You were
so smart and so outgoing. I knew whatever you would become, you were going to do it with
enthusiasm. I know you were looking at becoming a lawyer, and God help the other side,
because man could you argue. Not always hateful argument, you just liked to be right, another
feature of your daddy. It was one of many things that I loved about you. We would see little
pieces of me in you come out here and there and we would laugh and say "Well, we know where
you got that from." I was so proud of you...my little girl. And I always will be. There was this one
time, I can't remember what grade, but it was at Oak Park Elementary. You had a singing recital
and you were a little nervous because you were going to be doing a duet with another boy and
you had to sing alone sometimes. I remember having to hurry to get there , but I made it, and
your performance simply brought me to tears right there in front of everybody. I could not control
the emotion I felt. You did such a wonderful job sweetheart. And I mean you were REALLY good. I
had never felt such a strong emotion...proud, elated, surprised, impressed...love...I really don't
even know how to describe it. It was all that, wrapped up in one. That was just one of many times
in my life that you gave me that feeling. I will miss you so much. I will remember you for always. I
will love you forever. God showed that he loved us all when he gave you to us. Maybe, with the
world as crazy as it is today, he needed your help. He needed you to come back home. And when
my time comes, it's going to be a little easier to leave this world, knowing you and my mom will be
there to greet me. And when I get there, first thing I'll expect is a great big hug little monkey.
Jeff (Daddy)
July 27th, 2004
Kelli,
I am sitting here alone, waiting for your dad to come home—from making your
final arrangements. God, how I hate that phrase….Honey, I feel like I am in
one of those bizarre dreams that you always have, and that we’ll all wake up
and laugh about it—like we did last Saturday night on the way to the movie.
You could always make me laugh, you know? I keep thinking that you’ll walk
through the door, plop your stuff on the floor by the couch and open up a can
of pop and crash on the couch, usually with a phone glued to your ear. Who’s
going to leave half empty pop cans and wrappers laying around for me to pick
up? Who’s going to stick up for me when your dad is picking on me? Who’s
going to drive me nuts by you and your dad playing video games with Joey all
day? Baby, I just can’t believe you’re gone. My heart is broken…
When I first met your dad, he told me all about his girls—he is so proud of
you and Kim…of course, I wasn’t sure how you’d take me and Joe. But you
opened up your heart and welcomed us both into your life. I think back at all
of the times you were with us…the weekends and Thanksgiving and Christmas—oh
Christmas..how I loved shopping for you and watching you tear into every gift
like a little girl!! And our trip to Florida was magical—the way your eyes lit
up when you first saw the ocean..we couldn’t drag you out of it! You were like
some beautiful tropical fish returned to your home. And then Disney—you wanted
to see everything and do everything all at once. Honey, we were supposed to go
back—all of us—to use up the rest of the days on the tickets.
I know you weren’t mine, but I love you as if you were. It’s so hard to imagine
going on without you. I know everything happens for a reason, but this one is
too hard to understand. The world was a better place with you IN IT—and now it
seems so bleak.
I love you, Squirt, and will miss you more than you can imagine.
All my love,
Jen
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Accident prompts petitions
Teen's death spurs
friends, residents to ask for changes at
intersection
By
CHRISTINA SMITH
REGISTER STAFF WRITER
August 3, 2004
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Friends of Kelli Clover,
13, hold petitions asking
that a stoplight be
installed at the north-side
intersection where she died
July 25. From left are
Nicole VanZandt, 19; Nick
Evans, 13; Kelsey Reimers,
13; Devon Cort, 13; Jacob
Barber, 13; and James
Shadden, 13.
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Friends and classmates of a north-side
teenager who died on Euclid Avenue last week
are trying to prevent similar tragedies. In
addition to holding candlelight vigils in
her name and weekend carwashes to raise
money for Kelli Clover's burial, Harding
Middle School students and parents have
started two petition drives seeking a
pedestrian traffic light at the intersection
of Euclid Avenue and Oxford Street.
Nicole VanZandt, who started one of the
petitions, remembers crossing the street as
a child to attend Harding Middle School a
block away. There is a tremendous need for a
pedestrian traffic light at the
intersection, she said, and she wants the
city to install one that would be signalled
by a button at the crosswalk.
"With as many kids who cross the street,
it only makes sense," VanZandt said. A
traffic light "would make it easier and
safer for them."
Jodi Rife, whose daughter was a classmate of
Kelli's, agrees. Her petition asks for a
traffic light, but if the city won't commit
to that, she said it should at least
designate a crosswalk.
"I know that a stoplight won't prevent all
the accidents that happen there, but it
could make a difference," Rife said.
She plans to present her petition to City
Council after she receives at least 200
signatures.
Jeff Clover, Kelli's father, said Thursday
he visits the intersection nightly since his
daughter died July 25 while trying to cross
the street on her bicycle.
"I would just hate to see anyone else have
to go through what I'm having to go through
right now," Clover said. "I just invite
anybody down there to see what the problem
is. If you stood there at that intersection
for any amount of time, you would know why
we would want a stoplight there."
Clover, who lives in Urbandale, said he
was in a car accident at the same location
when he was 18.
"I know from my own experience from years
ago, it's a bad spot," Clover said. "You
wouldn't have to stand there for more than
10 minutes to realize how busy it is. It's a
dangerous area."
Harding Principal Donna Christensen said she
watches more than 300 of her school's 700
students cross the streets around the school
daily. Christensen said school officials
would always be in favor of another
crosswalk or a traffic signal.
"There is so much traffic on (Euclid
Avenue) at any time during the day,"
Christensen said. "The intersection is used
by a lot of our students. The closest signal
lights are more than a block away, and the
children just don't think about using them."
Christensen said the school, which is
located at 203 E. Euclid Ave., includes in
its curriculum each year a "positive
behavioral support" program that teaches
students about appropriate ways to use the
crosswalk and how to behave on the bus, in
the cafeteria and on school grounds.
"We're not going to say anything new this
year," Christensen said. "But just saying it
again might make a difference."
Harding has grief counselors available for
students, she added, and Kelli will be
remembered via a memorial project at the
school. Details will be discussed with
students during the first week of school.
Christensen said Kelli, who was to be an
eighth-grader in the fall, will be
remembered as a popular and intelligent
teenager. She was an accelerated math
student and was active in cheerleading,
chorus, softball and volleyball.
"She was just a sweetheart," Christensen
said. "She had it all going for her. She was
just a wonderful young lady."
When school starts Aug. 30, many students
will likely walk past a makeshift shrine at
the accident site, filled with flowers,
notes and stuffed animals.
Friend and classmate James Shadden, 13, who
was visiting the site last week, said it was
important to see a traffic signal installed
at the intersection where his friend died.
"Everybody goes too fast and there are a lot
of distractions," James said. "I think it
would make a difference. It would make
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August 5,
2004
Jeff,
I am really sorry bout what happened to kelli I didnt really
know her but i no she was a good girl. And that nobody will
forget her. And the community is behind you 100%
RedRose
I havent really known u that long but i have
known u long enough to know that u are
sweet,beautiful,active,and smart person...no
1 will ever 4get u...at lunch i always say
people sit by u and they would always laugh
and i always saw ur beautiful smile...ur
lose has touched ALOT of people even the
people that didnt no u....
Jeff i no this is hard for u and ever1 else
in ur family i no that it is hard for me....cuz
like i said i didnt really no her....i went
to Oak Park with her and she was very very
very popular...
Kelli i remember 1 day i dont remember what
grade but me and Nicole was goin to stay the
night at ur house and i wanted to stay so i
was so happy to stay at ur house cuz i knew
you would make it so much fun...BUT then i
got sick and i didnt stay the night....after
July 25th i wish that i did and get to know
u a lil better...i am crying this very min
writing this...Kelli u will always be
loved..
Love,
Michelle Collier...age 13
August
8, 2004
Dad/Jeff, U
have been like a father to me i just
wanted you to know I miss her soo
much too! I don't really know what I
am going to do without her!!
Everyday when i walked in the
auditorium i would see her smile and
she would give me the biggest hug
and that sweet smile!! I am going to
miss that!! I really don't know what
i am going to do. I always remember
her and me passing notes in class
man it was soo funny!! She would
always have snacks in her pocket and
get them on the notes!! It was
hilarious. Man i remember when you
came and got me and her to go
skating man that was funny cuz she
had the phone in her pocket!! That
was funny!! I just wanted to thank
you for being there through this
really hard time for the both of
us!! I honestly have no idea what I
am going to do not being able to
laugh with her at lunch!! Dad, i am
not sure if u like me calling you
dad but u can tell me and talk to me
like i am your daughter cuz you are
like a father to me!! And i am
thankful for haveing you here with
me!! Well i don't want to start
crying so i guess we can stay in
touch through this!! I sure hope u
talk to me and stuff and o yea
BEAUTIFUL website!! Well i guess i
shall go so i will talk to you later
hopefully!! BYE
Luv ya lots
Nicole Renee
Gregory!!
Nicole,
How could I not love you like a
daughter. Kelli loved you like a
sister. I am honored that you would
call me dad. I remember watching you
guys play softball together. I
thought you were the best player on
the team. Kelli was a close second.
:) She's gone now, and there is
nothing we can do about that. It is
normal to grieve, to cry, to feel
sad. It's OK hunny. We are ALL
hurting. We just have to remember
the good times that we had with
Kelli. We have to honor her by
remembering and sharing the good
times, the stories, the fun that we
all had with her. She was a
beautiful person and I will miss her
very much. You have no idea how you
have touched me. Thank you for
writing me and please don't stop.
Love,
Jeff (Daddy)
Daddy,
I am so glad you think of me that
way. I am soo honored!! Man I am so
glad you have been here with me
through those good times and bad
times!! I know Kelli is still here
with us we just might not be able to
see her in person but we all know
she is there!! If you need me to
talk to or cry with or just have a
laugh, i am here!! And I know you
are there for me!! Daddy, I love you
like you are my true Dad!! You also
act like one to!! Kelli is very
luvky to have a dad like you! I am
proud too!! Well i gotta get going
hopefully i will see you soon and
talk to you soon!! Tell me if you
need anything ok!!
Love Ya Lots,
Nicole (daughter)
August
8, 2004
my memory is in math
i would always ask to
use her calculator
because i lost mine and
she sat right next to
me. Usually she would
let me borrowit but when
she wouldn't i would
steal it. but she always
knew i stole it. and i
would ask her for help
with my math. first she
would make fun of me
because i am older and
she is smarter, but in
the end she would always
help me. that is not my
only memory, but that is
one that comes to my
mind.
Addison Masters
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